First dates are always nerve racking!!! Whether or not you
know the person you’re seeing, it doesn’t make a difference. Initial meetings
have the ability to make anyone feel a bit anxious when it comes to matters
such as dating and relationships. The 3 things we secretly hope for on a first
date are: to
be liked, to not embarrass ourselves, and lastly- to get the coveted second date. By following these Do’s & Don’ts on a first date, you
can bet that you’ll be seeing them again!
DO'S
1. Be yourself.
2. Be on time.
3. If you’re going on a blind date, meaning you haven’t met
the person yet, agree to meet them someplace public. Do not give them your
address…just yet. Safety first!
4. Be courteous and polite.
5. Hold back from giving your honest opinion on everything.
You never know how your date will react to your candidness.
6. Offer to pay for your portion of the date. Do not expect
that your date will pay unless they’ve specifically said they would…always
be prepared
to offer.
7. In case you have to contact someone during the date, make
sure your cell phone is with you and charged. Carry change for a payphone if need
be.
8. Have an exit plan if the date is making you feel
uncomfortable or unsafe. For example, “I need to get home” or “I have an early
day tomorrow”. In short, a polite way to excuse yourself.
9. Carry gum or mints with you. There’s nothing worse than
bad breath on a date, especially your first.
10. If you enjoyed yourself and hope to see the person again,
let them know your interest in a second date. You could try saying, “I had a
great time”, or “I hope we do this again”.
DON'TS
1. Never be late- unless you have a legitimate reason to be.
Inform your date if you know you will be running behind schedule.
2. Do not be impolite to your date or anyone you come across
while out. Keep in mind that you don’t have a second chance to
make a first
impression.
3. Honesty is an admirable quality, but being blatantly honest
could backfire on you- as well as ensure that there’ll never be a second date.
4. Don’t forget your wallet; never assume that your date
will foot the bill. Today, the common and polite gesture is known as, “going Dutch”.
Which means both persons pay for themselves.
5. Don’t forget your cell phone. If the two of you are
meeting someplace, you have to be able to reach each other.
6. If you’re of legal age to drink- do NOT get drunk. Having
a drink at dinner is acceptable, but getting drunk to the point where you
cannot drive is shameful.
7. Don’t kiss on the first date (at least not on the lips).
I like to think I’m traditional, so a hug or even a kiss on the cheek is
appropriate.
8. If you didn’t have as great of a time as you hoped, and
you don’t foresee a second date- don’t say, “I’ll call you”- if you have no
intention of doing so. A simple “thank you for tonight” will suffice.
Hopefully you made it out of the date unscathed and have
already made plans to see them again. If you followed the suggestions, then all
the better. Congrats!